This week my therapist made fun of me a little.

I don’t think she’s ever done that, and it was very gentle, but I was telling her how I seem to have surrounded myself, post-marriage, with people who compliment me all the time.  They tell me how much they appreciate me and am proud of me.


This makes me happy but…uncomfortable.  It makes me think they might be disingenuous, or want something from me.  If not, it seems…selfish.  It’s not necessary.  I’m not used to it.

So, she says, are you asking if it’s ok to hang out with people who like you?

Yes, she said, it’s okay.  And encouraged.

If I was reading this about someone else, I would think, how pathetic.  That woman doesn’t even have the basic building blocks for any kind of self esteem.

Well, if the shit fits…

Have you notices that I work “shit” into almost all my posts?  That’s a topic for another day.

Moving on


4 thoughts on “

  1. I can understand that getting compliments and praise can be awkward. I would say this, regardless of people’s motivations, you should, at the very least, take the positive energy from the positive comments. Too often people are negative and derisive, so enjoy those moments when they aren’t.

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  2. This really hit me, as I’ve been working hard to accept compliments without deflecting or dismissing them. I’ve spent so many of the last years before leaving my Ex surrounded by negativity, that a life without it seems a little surreal to me.


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