I’m late to some of these parties, but it doesn’t seem to matter.
Since my last child left the nest and she is tucked into her sophomore year at college — pretty far away — far enough to pause over an impromptu weekend trip home —
I have a lot of time to chat with the cat and surf Netflix. The cat is very haughty about Netflix, but cats are haughty about everything, (except laser pointers), so I’m not going to feel demeaned by that.
I’ve always had a weird feeling about William H. Macy, husband to Felicity Huffman, and man with a name too similar to W.B. Mason, our office supplier. Actors, am I right? Bill? Bill Macy? I first paid attention to him in Fargo.
As is very often — too often — the case, my first impressions are usually wrong, or will change. Macy is so good in Shameless, but despite being the drunk patriarch of the Gallagher family, he’s almost the straight man to all the other characters and their stories.
The thing I like about it is that it highlights the complicated relationships in families. Sure, you can say you’re going to cut out this or that family member, but they are still going to be there, waving to you occasionally in your mind, quietly being cut out. For decades, if need be. They can wait.
I also love the way the kids seek circumstances or individuals to teach them lessons their family “should have” taught them — unconditional love, integrity, forgiveness, you know.
I’m scared and sad for them when they get “hustled” by someone. It must seem so easy to hustlers. Everyone wants so badly to feel like the person they just met is different, trustworthy, or changed for all time by one stint in rehab. Where has this person been? Well, statistically speaking, probably hustling someone who else who finally caught on. That’s where. We, the collective naivete, need to heed this saying more than all others, “If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.”
I told my therapist that at this point in the journey, I’m scared. I’ve said many things to her, but never that. She said, “I would imagine. You’re walking through the scariest part of your movie right now. The circumstance you tried so desperately to avoid is happening right now.”
Well, that’s great. I’m a scaredy cat. She did add that I’m doing fine.