This was going to be a continuation of my daughter’s struggles and her way through them.
She just texted me that I would be proud of her — she had an appointment with a counselor at school to talk about her issues.
“Oh, and dad got married today. He told me in an email. Triple whammy.”
Forget her play audition, the singing group she was rejected from. We worked that through, I thought. I mentioned that plays are a big time suck and she’s already in a singing group. No need to join another. Each group wants to think you care most about theirs.
I am in shock about her dad getting married, although, as history has taught me, that’s his pattern: get remarried right away (this is 3) so it proves to everyone that you were serious about the new woman. She wasn’t just a rebound. Everyone can go back to trusting him and letting him (and her) back into their lives.
But, I’m not hurt. My daughter and ex had had a fight, and things were strained, but it hurt her that he told her after the fact. By email.
My hope is that it wasn’t an “event” that excluded her. Like, for instance, did her brother know, but she didn’t? Was he invited? Was their grandmother invited?
I hope not, but I hope a lot of things, like that history would not be such an infallible predictor.