Anticipation and Change in Likelinleyland


Today is an abbreviated day at work with a retirement party at the end.

Tonight my daughter comes home for Thanksgiving break.

Sunday we fly to my “home” to see my mom and sister.  My son will join us Tuesday.

And, I get to spend time with people I’m related to, but barely know:  my half brother, my niece, one of my aunts, two of her grandchildren, and my dad’s cousin, who is in her 90’s.

Under my X’s dictatorship, my side of the family was deemed “religious hicks,” and therefore, unimportant and not worth seeing regularly.  For many years they lived further away from us than his “superior” family, so we spent WAY more time with his side.  And, they had WAY more influence on my kids than my side.

Well, change has come to Likelinleyland!

We may never meet up again, but at least we will meet.  We will share a meal.  We will be thankful together.  Maybe longer-term bonds will develop, but probably not.  At least maybe my kids will see that not everyone’s family is comprised of f-ed up egotists…

Oh, sure, let’s be clear, they’re f-ed up, too.  Everyone’s family is in some way.  What they’re NOT, are narcissistic East Coast elites, who can’t figure out how to carry on a relationship with someone one of them dumps.

And, those religious hicks, (not how I feel), are mine.  They have value.  Lots of ADDED value.  And some of that value swims around in my kids and me.

Let’s give some thanks!



2 thoughts on “Anticipation and Change in Likelinleyland

  1. This is so timely. I am all for hicks and elites getting together and comparing their disparate realities. There are lovely people at every socioeconomic level. (Let’s stop referring to them as “classes” as if there were wall separating them . . . ) Have a good trip with lots of talk and open, non-judgmental listening. Looking forward to hearing how it goes!

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  2. Thank you!

    The thing is, both my parents are college educated, as well as my mother’s parents! My siblings and I all have college degrees. It’s just the perception that if it is filtered through a rural aesthetic and a different religion, some people can’t see that we are not “dumb” just “different.” Accents, too. It’s actually fascinating. I’m sure I will have lots to share after the week is over!


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