Gaslighting or gas-lighting is a form of mental abuse in which information is twisted or spun, selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity.
It’s not quite true that no one’s sayin’ it. As I was searching for articulate explanations of gaslighting on the internet, I came across this from Monday:
Donald Trump is ‘gaslighting’ all of us
“The fact is Trump has become America’s gaslighter in chief.
If you’ve never heard the term, prepare to learn it and live with it every day. Unless Trump starts behaving in a radically different way after he becomes President, gaslighting will become one of the words of 2017.
The term comes from the 1930s play “Gas Light” and the 1940s Hollywood movie version (Gaslight)
in which a manipulative husband tries to unmoor his wife, played by Ingrid Bergman, by tampering with her perception of reality.
That’s only the beginning…”
“…He told his supporters to “knock the crap out” of protesters
at his rallies, adding “I will pay your legal fees.” When confronted with the statement, he responded
: “I didn’t say that.”
After mimicking a disabled reporter and seeing the video used as evidence against him, he repeatedly denied it, claiming his opponents should be embarrassed
to say he did. “I would NEVER mock disabled. Shame!”
Right on Frida Ghitis.
Battling narcissists is like playing whack-a-mole. You divorce one, and in no time another one becomes the president of your country.
If you haven’t had the pleasure of sorting out a place for the inevitable narcissist in your life, take it from Frida and me, it’s only the beginning.
Buckle the fuck up.